Internal prostate massage with a partner
Internal prostate massage from a partner can lead to powerful orgasms. The key here is to relax and slowly build up the prostatic fluid by edging. This is delaying orgasm before giving the final prostate massage.
Prostate massage is best done after a shower. Never attempt any anal or prostate play if there is damage to the anus such as fissures or hemorrhoids. Silicone lube is preferred among most people over its water based counterpar.
The next (and most important thing) is to relax. When trying something new in the bedroom, it is always best to be stress free. This is all about feeling good!
Communicate with your partner about speed, depth, lube and pressure. Arousal is the next step. You want to get prepared for two things at this point, sexual stimulation and anal play.
If you are alone, you might want to watch some porn or start doing whatever stimulates you sexually. When you have an erection and are aroused, begin the anal play.
Your finger is inserted to the second knuckle in the anal cavity. Now you want to go deeper. Insert your finger deeper until you feel a little rough lump. This should be around three inches inside your rectum and up towards belly button. This lump is your prostate gland. Rest your finger on the aroused prostate. DO NOT PUSH, just rest it and do small light circles and continue on with sexual stimulation.
Keep repeating this last action until an orgasm occurs while rubbing the prostate. As an added bonus, the refractory period to get erect again will be dramatically reduced.
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Editor's Note!
A note about gender and sexual fluidity: Nothing is usually set in black and white. Like life, gender and sexuality come in all variations (the "50 Shades of Grey" title makes a little more sense now, right?) There are many people who don't identify as the gender most often associated with their personal sexual organs. A person may also be straight, gay, or anywhere on the spectrum in between. If you would like to learn more about gender and sexuality terms, Arnold Zwicky has a wonderful guide HERE